When Only One of You is Trying

Let’s face it. Divorce is never easy, and it becomes even more challenging when one parent refuses to co-parent.

As an experienced mediator who has worked with many families, I understand how difficult this situation can be.

I have seen this play out time and time again and I want to reassure you that there is a way forward, and you don't have to suffer in silence.

My first piece of advice is to focus on what you can control.

While you can't force your co-parent to cooperate, you can control your own actions and behaviour. Be the best co-parent you can be, even if your ex is not reciprocating. This means showing up for your children, communicating openly and respectfully, and prioritising their needs above your own.

Secondly, consider seeking outside help.

A family mediator, therapist or another trusted professional can offer support and guidance during this difficult time. A neutral third party can often find solutions that work for both people.

Finally, it's important to practice self-care. Divorce and co-parenting can be emotionally draining, so make sure you are taking care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Invest in your own wellbeing by building a self care plan. Taking this step is within your control.

Tap into available resources and incorporate strategies around a balanced diet; proper exercise; quality sleep; intake of alcohol and drugs; connection to family and friend networks; learning meditation and mindfulness techniques.

Don't forget to prioritise your own well-being and thereby your children’s wellbeing, whether that means taking time for self-care or seeking therapy to cope with the stress.

Being a present parent and an effective role model when such chaos is around you often requires a new road to travel. You don't have to do it alone. You deserve to be happy and healthy, and your children need you to be at your best!

Contact me today to learn more about how I can help.